I finally took her to see the doc. and she said I should hold back on the potty training. And I told her, that she won't even poop in a diaper. And then she said, "oh". Well you need to find her an everybody poops book. She also told me to put her on miralax.
The Doctor sent me home with literature on the matter. I thought I would share... 1-Clarify the goal with your child. Review with your child that their job is to make a poop come out every day. Your body makes a poop every day and the poop wants to come out every day.
2- Transfer all responsibility to your child. Tell her that her body makes a poop everyday and that it belongs to her. The "poop" wants to come out and go in the toilet. When your child quits receiving pep talks about not going she will eventually decide to go to the bathroom for attention.
If she is holding back tell your child "your body is talking to you, what does it want you to do?" "The poop needs your help"
And for children 4 and older it says you can put them in "poop jail" until they have passed a poop the size of a banana.
And the last bit: Help your child change her clothes if she soils herself. Don't ignore soiling. Then main role you have in this new program is to enforce the rule "people can't walk aroung with messy pants."
I gave you a much shortened version. Pretty dang funny I thought. I would like to meet the person who wrote this.
Wish me luck!!!